Oh Motherhood, you amazing thing…

Motherhood has been a whirlwind. Giving birth to Riella Poppy in June 2015 changed my life.

Having many friends who have made the transition to motherhood, I’d heard lots of stories and been given many sage tips. My intention was to go in without expectations. To just flow along with whatever happened and to believe I could handle anything that came along.

Well…I learned that that was an expectation in itself!

There have been many, many, many magical moments but I hit some rough spots too and I’m finding my equilibrium again.

I cannot imagine life without her. She has brought an astronomical amount of laughter into an already giggle-filled house. When Grandma takes her for an hour or a day, we gaze at pictures and videos of her (?? Oh god, we’re those people!).

But she is that special and the landscape on this side of life is so different. It is even more important now to do my best. To become a greater version of my imperfect self with the acceptance of who I am now and where I’d like to head given the massive changes that have occurred. Because she looks to me already and I know there is even more of that to come.

So as I fill my well; and as I find my feet again in this amazing life terrain (and become an expert in nappies, vomit and tantrums), I’m coming back to coaching a year later than I expected – in the first third of 2017.

I feel this is important because Coaching is not about me, it is about YOU. And in order to hold a sacred space for you to bloom and flourish, I need to water my garden in the meantime (Can you tell I love flowers with this analogy?!). But not doing on going coaching doesn’t mean I don’t like helping others or hearing from them! Feel free to shoot me an email though to share your thoughts or if you need any info or if I can refer you to an amazing coach in the meantime.

Thank you for your support and your patience. In the meantime, my diary inserts are still out in the world doing their duty.

Arienne

Raw, Honest & Blazing With Confidence

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I’m over at katetoholka.com today sharing a post that flowed from my heart and through my fingers, out into the world.

“As I stared down at the blurry tiles through my tears, I wondered how I’d gotten here (‘Here’ being the foetal position on the bathroom floor – yep…programmed by movies).

How did that bubbly girl who often got complimented on her beaming smile get to this place where she was contemplating ending the opportunity to ever smile again?… Read More

What an honour to be featured alongside other women (Lydnsey Eden,  Loveday Good and Louise Pontin) sharing raw stories. Kate is all about being a Trailblazer and healthy living as a lifestyle (word.).

Make it as you wish Adventuress,

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Your True Life Vision Takes Courage

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When you start acknowledging that you want ‘more’ in your life, it can be scary. The questions start to come up. Does wanting more mean you need to change everything at once? Does it mean all the good stuff will change too? Does saying it out loud mean you need to make drastic changes immediately?

Then that bloody unhelpful voice kicks in saying, “you can’t do it silly, you don’t have enough skills or confidence or knowhow AND you’re waaaaaaaay too lazy/stupid/unworthy. Besides, even if you did attempt it you would probably fail, fail, FAAAAAIIIIIILLLLLLL!!!!!!”

Does any of that sound familiar?

These questions, answers and thoughts often overwhelm us so much so that we stay in inaction.  The result is that you are left yearning for the wonderful possibilities out there but feeling like you just don’t know how to reach them. That gap then exists between where you are now and where you would like to be and that void is often a source of unhappiness…

Does any of that ring a bell?

Change can be daunting. It is the unknown! Is full of uncertainty!  Breaking out from the status quo often is. It means stretching out of your comfort zone when sometimes staying in the ‘zone’ is well…comfortably warm and safe – like those favourite gungy trackie pants you have (comfy but really not really all that exciting). Plus, the future can feel like it is fraught with potential challenges and ‘danger’.

But is it really safe to stay there? Well, if you want an ‘okay’ life then yes it is. But if you want an amazing life, one that you are truly enamoured with, then the comfort zone becomes a dangerous place to be. It becomes unsafe because you are already aware that there is a better option of life for you out there while you are where you are now. In my experience, if you know it but ignore it, ‘things’ (blocks barriers, frustration, mediocrity, sickness, unhappiness, unease) happen until you pay attention.

You have to ask yourself if the vision you see in your dreams is worth leaving the status quo and making the effort to get there:

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. Anais Nin

All I know is that I want a great life. A great life on my own terms. A life I can look back on and say, “Wooooohaaaaaa I gave it my all! I tried and I got more than I could ever dream of. Sometimes I attempted something and even though I was reaching for the stars and I ended up catching the dreamy moon and other times I tried and and I ‘failed’ but I learned and at least I wasn’t left wondering…what if and kicking myself because I didn’t have the guts to give it a go.”

I am finding the courage to make my life the way I want. I am stepping out of my comfort zone and putting myself out there into the unknown. I am being brave in the face of difficult questions and challenging situations.  I am looking things in the eye and trusting myself that I will find a solution. It is not easy and I get scared. I question myself. I sometimes wonder if another way would be easier. But because I TRULY know it is worth the effort, I’m building my strengths in self-belief, courage and taking forward action. I’m enjoying my today while putting things in place for my tomorrow. For this I am being rewarded with so much magic and so much support showing up in my world.

Trust me, you want to do it without the need for life/death experiences to wake you up to what life can be.

Wake up now if there are parts of your life that are just okay. Wake up now if there are parts you love and parts you hate. Wake up now if it all seems not so fabulous. Because if you do, if you really stand up and look for it, there is a lot of great out there and your life can be so much more than you once thought was possible.

I say all of this as a person who was once in the darkest hell hole you could imagine and is now living in much more sunshine. I’m still on my journey with all its challenges and all its glories but I am so grateful I gave life a go.

What is something you can do today to take a step towards where you want to go and who you want to be? What could you acknowledge or admit that feels true to you without necessarily having to do anything about it yet? How can you give your life a go?

Make it as you wish Adventuress. MAKE. IT. AS. YOU. WISH.
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